Why You Are Tired of Your Relationship and How You Can Fix It

No matter how much you love someone, there comes a time when that person begins to lose their appeal.

Once upon a time, you could have taken a bullet for this girl, but now you are the one pointing the gun at her, and you are wondering why?

I firmly believe in biology over religion and values. Because when a man sees a naked woman, biology responds before religion and whatever upbringing or moral beliefs he holds.

Therefore, in researching why we get tired of relationships after a while, it is best to turn to biology before anything else.

Scientifically, the more time you spend doing something, the better you get at it.

This simple theory explains why your kid might be more attached to the babysitter than you and your spouse. It also explains why advertisers keep showing you the same advert. Also, this is why it might take a few listens to appreciate a song.

Solution

Spend more quality time together.

After all, this is how you got her in the first place.

You might ask, “You said to spend more time with each other, and now you say repetition and over-familiarity are liking my relationship.”

Allow me to explain:

So, don’t take it personally if your friend or partner no longer appreciates you. You have become all too familiar, and their brain doesn’t get any thrill by associating with you.

Solution

Don’t be a creature of habit.

I assure you, the improvements will be self-evident.

Don’t judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree; it is pointless.

1 Corinthians 12:12–27 used this concept as an analogy to describe the one body of Christ. It says not to judge the hand by its ability to see because there is a diversity of talents, and each has a role to play.

If you judge a person based on their strengths, you are more likely to appreciate the person. If you consider a person based on their weaknesses, they are more likely to irritate you.

Solution

“If a dog can love us unconditionally, why can’t we love each other the same way?” — Carol McKibben

Lastly, if you are reading this and cannot imagine loving her like the first time you met her, I have bad news for you — You’re right; it will never happen.

Here is why:

So, the sweaty palms, racy heart and all your feelings resulted from heightened cortisol and serotonin levels.

After a while, your brain adapts, and your cortisol and serotonin levels return to normal.

At this stage, love becomes a buffer element in your brain. The initial stress caused by love is gradually replaced by comfort and security.

So, it is not the person’s fault, it is not your fault, it is a case of adaptation of the brain.

The spark disappears because your brain now trusts your partner’s intention, and thus, you get comfy. Some refer to this sort of love as — Agape love.

Therefore, if you want a relationship full of sparks, you either take up a job as an electrician or date new people and dump them once the relationship grows beyond shallow love — This is your only hope.

Note: This information applies to both sexes.

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